How to Settle into a New Texas Community: Making Friends and Getting Involved

Let me tell you, it’s not as complicated as it seems. You just need to know what steps to take. If you’re reading this, you’re already ahead of the curve because you care enough to figure it out. Here’s the no-nonsense way to make Texas feel like your turf.

Plant Yourself Where the Locals Are

If you’re going to settle into a Texas community, you’ve got to know where people hang out. Texans love their hangout spots—whether it’s a local coffee shop, BBQ joint, or church parking lot after Sunday service. Find those go-to spots where everyone gathers, and you’ll start meeting people naturally.

• • Love coffee? Find that local café that always has a crowd.
  • Big fan of sports? Check out high school football games on Fridays—that’s the heart of small-town Texas.
  • Not sure where to start? Ask your neighbors! People here love to share recommendations.

Get Comfortable Saying 

This might sound overly simple, but hear me out: In Texas, friendliness isn’t optional. A simple “hi” at the grocery store or a “howdy” to someone walking down the street can make a big difference. Texans respond to that. If you’re waiting for someone to go out of their way to talk to you first, you might be waiting a while. Take the first step.

I had a neighbor who gave me a whole list of local spots just because I struck up a conversation while taking out the trash. That’s how it works here. The more you put yourself out there, the quicker you’ll feel like you’re part of the group.

Volunteer for Local Events

If you want to make friends fast, there’s no better way than showing up and pitching in. Texas communities thrive on events—parades, fundraisers, festivals, and more. Offer to help out. Not only will you meet people, but they’ll remember you as someone they can count on.

• • Check out local Facebook groups or community boards for events that need volunteers.
  • Join a PTA group if you have kids in school—parents are always looking for an extra set of hands.
  • Show up at city council meetings or local chamber of commerce gatherings to stay informed and meet people who are passionate about your town.

For example, when I first moved, I volunteered at a BBQ cookoff festival (of course—it’s Texas). Not only did I meet other newcomers, but I ended up making friends with the guy next to me who gave me his killer brisket recipe. Win-win.

Lean into the Texas Culture

Texans have serious pride. And to settle into a Texas community, it helps if you embrace the local culture. Whether it’s food, music, or sports, you’ll find common ground quickly by taking part in some of the state’s traditions.

• • Learn to love BBQ and Tex-Mex because that’s the food of the land around here.
  • Get familiar with classic Texas country music artists like George Strait or Willie Nelson—you’ll hear their songs at every event.
  • Don’t skip the rodeos! Even if you’re a city person, rodeos can be a ton of fun and a great way to meet locals.

When I embraced a few local traditions—like hosting a backyard BBQ and showing up to a chili cookoff—people connected with me faster because I wasn’t just the “new person”—I was someone who cared enough to engage with their way of life.

FAQs: 

How long does it take to feel settled in Texas?

It varies for everyone, but most newcomers say it takes about 6 months to a year. The key is getting involved as soon as possible and building those local connections.

What are the best places to meet new people in Texas?

Start with local events, farmers’ markets, community fairs, and recreational leagues. Churches, gyms, and coffee shops are also popular gathering spots.

What’s the Texas vibe like for newcomers?

It’s welcoming but only if you make an effort. Texans love their communities, and they appreciate people who want to be a part of them. A little friendliness goes a long way here.

Do smaller towns in Texas make it harder to meet people?

Not really. Smaller towns might feel a little quieter at first, but they’re often even more welcoming because everyone knows everyone. Once you meet a couple of locals, the rest of the community tends to open up.